Advice to the Girls
You might have guessed by now that I have been spending a lot of time perusing the internet. Firstly, my Dad (the one who was sooooo against the internet 10 years ago, and who now has 5 computers running simultaneously. In the same room.) turned me onto NetVibes, and I’ve gone RSS Feed wild! How positively excellent that I can sign in to one website and have all my favorite news, weather, blogs, etc. in one place, all categorized and tabulated, and as I want it! People, I am fat with information!
Which brings me to the second interesting thing I found today. A new book, “On My Own: The Art of Being a Woman Alone”. Wonderful. No, I mean it. It’s probably going to really save some woman’s soul. But the fact that we still have to write books like this for women rankles me. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes we all need some guidance in learning how to be whole. I myself spend a lot of time sitting on a meditation cushion in order to discipline my mind into believing there is nothing at all wrong in the world. (Ok, ok, most of the time I ignore the fact that there is a whole meditation area in my living room, complete with chant books, candles, and cool incense. So sue me.)
What makes me snort like an angry bull about this kind of book is that it is a symbol, an indicator that women are still being programmed to believe that we are inherently incomplete without partnership.
Women, please, for the love of all that is good in you, just stand up and be whole already! With or without a partner. With or without children. We vote, we work, we enjoy sex, we even (according to the latest issue of Bust magazine) avail ourselves the pleasures of the cornucopia of young foreign hotties. So what. is. the. problem.?
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Intellectual Independence
That’s what I look for in a woman
Good to know. A woman should have it regardless of if that is what a man is looking for. We still have so far to go.
I’ve also found, in the last year or so, relationship advice books for women that advocate “dumbing down” in order to get a guy.
What?
I’ve heard of that
the “surrendered woman” as dating philosophy
it seems ill-advised at best and seriously disingenuous at worst
be who you are - which should be as vibrant and aggressive and alive as possible
I’m not really ever sure what it is people hope to get out of playing a “game” in the first place. My most meaningful relations with others have been based on mutual friendship.